The term “sober” traditionally carries with it a clear, unambiguous meaning: the absence of alcohol in one’s system. Yet, within the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous (A.A.), the definition seems to have evolved or perhaps, one might argue, devolved. This article delves into why A.A., an organization rooted in sobriety, allows for the use of certain drugs while still labeling individuals as “sober,” and my personal reflections on this practice after being completely sober for 26 years.
The Concept of Sobriety in A.A.
Alcoholics Anonymous has long been a sanctuary for those battling the demon of alcohol addiction. Its twelve steps, its fellowship, and its principle of anonymity have guided countless individuals towards a life free from the chains of alcoholism. However, A.A.’s stance on sobriety today includes a peculiar acceptance of other substance use, which many, including myself, find at odds with the fundamental ethos of being sober.
- A.A.’s Policy on Outside Issues:
- A.A.’s literature, particularly in the Twelve Traditions, states that the organization has no opinion on outside issues. This means that the use of marijuana, narcotics, or even prescription drugs, does not fall under A.A.’s purview as long as alcohol is not consumed. This laissez-faire attitude towards other substances is not explicitly promoted, but it’s also not discouraged. Consequently, members might use these substances without the obligation to disclose this to their sponsor or the group, under the umbrella of A.A.’s non-opinionated stance.
- Historical Context:
- In its early days, A.A. was far stricter regarding sobriety. The founders, Bill W. and Dr. Bob, advocated for a total abstinence approach not just from alcohol but from all mind-altering substances. Over the decades, as societal attitudes towards drugs like marijuana have shifted, and as medical science has introduced new forms of treatment, A.A.’s community has adapted. However, this adaptation sometimes feels like a dilution of its original mission.
- The Rise of Medically Assisted Treatment (M.A.T.):
- The medical community’s push for harm reduction through Medically Assisted Treatment (M.A.T.) has influenced recovery culture. People exiting treatment centers, often on medications like methadone or buprenorphine, are encouraged to attend A.A. meetings for community support. Herein lies the paradox: individuals who are not completely drug-free are still participating in what is traditionally seen as a sobriety program.
My Personal Take on Modern Sobriety
The shift in what constitutes ‘sober’ in A.A. rooms has always struck a dissonant chord with me. After 26 years of complete sobriety, where every day was a conscious choice to live free from any substance, the idea that one can partake in drugs and still claim sobriety feels like an undermining of the hard work and dedication that true sobriety demands.
- Harm Reduction vs. Sobriety:
- While I understand and support harm reduction strategies in broader societal terms, within A.A., calling oneself “sober” while using drugs does more than just blur lines; it potentially erodes the integrity of what recovery represents. It’s as if we’re changing the rules of the game halfway through, which can be confusing and disheartening for many who’ve adhered strictly to the original ethos of sobriety.
- The Dilution of Recovery:
- For someone who has lived in the black and white world of sobriety, the gray areas introduced by M.A.T. and the unspoken acceptance of other drugs in A.A. can feel like a betrayal. It diminishes the monumental effort of those who strive for total abstinence and might give newcomers or those struggling a mixed message about what recovery truly means.
Conclusion
While A.A. continues to be a beacon of hope for many, the evolution of what it means to be “sober” within its walls poses complex questions about identity, recovery, and the essence of sobriety itself. My journey in sobriety has been one of absolutes, of clear boundaries, and of unequivocal commitment to a life free from all substances. As A.A. navigates these modern waters, it’s crucial for members to critically assess what sobriety means to them personally and how that aligns with the group’s evolving practices.
In essence, perhaps it’s time to differentiate between harm reduction and true sobriety in A.A. contexts, ensuring that our language reflects our experiences and does not overshadow the achievements of those who’ve walked the path of complete sobriety.
